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I decided against my sane mind to ride my Honda 919 up to North Carolina from Sunny Florida to visit my father and younger siblings for Thanksgiving. It was COLD, but I had an amazing time. Here are some of the pics, enjoy:
So I took a trip with 2 of my co-workers to Key West. It was 806 miles round trip and it was amazing. I saw so many wonderful things and had a blast riding through such awe inspiring terrain. Here are some photos of my trip, I hope you can get a taste of what I saw. Oh and all was good until the last 20 miles when the rain hit me 😦 It was pretty bad, but lucky for me it was at the very end of my trip.
My Christmas was on 24 December. I had the kids on Christmas Eve and then took them over to my ex’s house on Christmas day. It started on the 24th with me getting my kids around 10 am. I had told my ex where I was taking them but didn’t tell the kids. My daughter had her hair done and was all dolled up and my son for the most part dressed up as well (as well as any 12-year-old will dress up when made to). I showed up to get them and the curiosity was bubbling out of them incessantly. My son wanted to know so badly where we were going as did my daughter.
I wasn’t ready to tell them yet what I had planned for them so I told them we were going fishing. FISHING?!? they exclaimed. How do you go fishing all dressed up? I told them we were going “Fancy Fishing”. Made up a whole story where you sit on kind of like a bleachers like seating on a fancy dock in Tampa and you get a 7 course meal served to you all the while you cast your line and try for some fish. The kids wanted to know why you dressed up for it. I told them that you do it because if you wanted catch a fancy fish (like an Ahi Tuna) that would be served in a fancy restaurant you need to dress fancy to catch it. Of course they didn’t believe me but since our event wasn’t until 2 pm I had a lot of fun going into depth with my fancy fishing idea. Hell that could possibly make money as a business maybe?
So onto the actual event. I had purchased Orchestral level tickets for the Broadway Musical “Wonderland” for Christmas Eve at 2 pm. It was awesome. The whole concept is that this grown Alice who is a direct descendant from the original Alice who the “Alice in Wonderland” was written about is an author. She had been thrust into fame with her previous book and because of it her personal life was falling apart. Her husband was leaving her and her daughter never saw her. She had the deadline for a new book looming over her head and just couldn’t juggle all the balls that fame brought with it. She ended up losing her daughter into Wonderland and she had to chase after her making friends and enemies all along the way. I won’t tell you how it ended but I just want to say that the Mad Hatter was probably my favorite Character along with the “Grown Alice”.
My kids LOVED it and it was a memory we had created together. The tickets weren’t cheap but it was well worth it. Afterward we came home to my place and opened up all the gifts. I had convinced my son to get my daughter a remote-controlled car and I convinced my daughter to get my son the same remote-controlled car. When we were at my grandfather’s place in Wyoming he had a remote-controlled car for all his great grandkids to play with and my son and daughter loved it. We played with those things into the night and had a wonderful day. So my Christmas had come a day early. That didn’t make Christmas Day any easier, but those memories we shared on Christmas Eve were amazing.
Christmas was hard. Yeah, I realize that it is only 8:40 in the morning but already it is done for me. The kids woke me up at 6 am and by 7:10 we were at my ex’s place. Santa had come. The kids had written him and told him that while they were spending Christmas Eve with me that they would be at their mother’s place in the morning so if it wasn’t too much trouble, if Santa could please deliver there.
It felt odd being in her place with her roommate and her roommate’s husband and “their” child who were all there having their separate Christmas together, a Christmas that my ex was a part of but which my only connection was through my children and their joy. I sat there like a stranger looking through a window of a place that was not his. My dog Benny came with the kids and I when we went there so he and I spent a majority of the time outside playing with the Frisbee so as not to be in the way. My ex asked me to stay for breakfast but seeing as how I wasn’t really spoken too by the other members living in that house (other than my children of course) it just felt awkward.
I had to go. Alone is something that I have been quite a lot over the last year and a half. Even though I don’t really care for my own company I make due. Christmas Eve was amazing, I have those memories with my kids that we created together and for that I am lucky and joyful, but Christmas day is different. You know what? The holidays suck, they are hard and stupid and we make them out in our head to be so much bigger than they need to be (I am not meaning for my kids, but for myself). We expect to feel some sense of something bigger than ourselves but really it is just you and all your own demons together for some good alone time when all is said and done.
I will be fine though, I have a lunch with one of my wonderful friends from the military who I thank God for every day. His name is Daniel. He and I served 2 tours in Iraq together and we both understand that our lives have been and will always be changed because of the things we saw and the things we did. He understands my pain as I understand his and I am so very thankful that he and his wife have so graciously invited me to spend Christmas day with them starting at lunch.
As I drove away from the home that is no longer mine I called my dad. He too understands me. He has served in combat (Vietnam) and he too has gone through divorce, loneliness and pain. I called him and I felt the tears coming as I told him I loved him and that I wished him a merry Christmas. He is a good man, a great man really. The people in my life are ones whom I do not deserve but who bless me by accepting me with ALL my flaws.
I suppose this is how Christmas is as a single father, awkward and alone, but happy that your kids are so wonderful and so loving. Merry Christmas to all of you and I wish you a happy new year…
I miss my kids and it sucks on the weekends that I don’t have them over the holidays. Last year was tough and this year should be better. What do you do when you are alone on the holidays? My kids are such a huge part of my life and splitting time over days like Christmas and the new year are hard…